How to Stop Trying to Be Perfect
Created / Updated 02 Sep, 19:28
The Quest for Perfection Can Keep Us from Enjoying Life
I often work with clients who set a goal and then throw all this other stuff on top of it and paralyze themselves before doing anything. They often tell me that they are afraid of doing something imperfect; afraid of messing up.
The idea that we mess up comes from many places, very often our family. The truth is that we only mess up if we choose to describe it that way. The next time you set a goal for yourself try focusing less on the whole “I’m doing something wrong and what if I fail,” outlook and set yourself up for success. Try the following ideas:
1. Set an achievable goal you know you can do.
2. Do one thing at a time and don’t burden yourself with extra things.
3. Celebrate when you complete a task, do something to treat yourself well.
We only fail if we set ourselves up for failure or listen to the negative messages inside our head. Success comes from setting realistic goals, completing them and moving forward purposefully. One last thing…you absolutely do not have to be perfect.